A client said to me “I’m finally making myself deal with it in an appropriate manner”. As a coach my job is help my clients reach ‘aha’ thoughts and then continue to pressure them to follow through on the ‘aha’. So when a client says they are finally dealing with it I know that the [...]
April 26, 2010 – 11:55 am
You may have heard the line “snatch victory from the jaws of defeat”. It something many people try to do when they test limits. They may do it in relationships to see how far they can go or with time management when they see how late they can leave a project. I think people are [...]
I started this post after the first round of the Masters Golf Tournament. I had been quite impressed with Tiger Woods’s press conference where he let it all hang out, letting go of ego to apologize and let the world know he felt the pain he had done to those around him. In the first [...]
In many of our workshops, especially those related to stress and resilient thinking, we introduce the concept of ‘letting go’ as a wonderful solution. Many people tend to ‘hold on’ to anger, fear, guilt, worry, needing to win, needing to parent [their parents], wanting too much, bad habits etc. etc. Sadly the ‘hold on’ list [...]
January 9, 2010 – 1:02 pm
Whether you define ‘win’ as ‘win/win’ or ‘I win’ every meeting you attend ought to be a successful use of your time and the time of the other participants. Here are some ideas to consider.
1. Go into every meeting with an objective. At the very least, at the end of the meeting you should know [...]
October 26, 2009 – 1:10 pm
On a recent holiday in Ireland I met Derry, a dairy farmer, from whom I learned more about ‘passengers’, a topic I’ve mentioned before.
Derry raises and sells cows. To be profitable in that business it is necessary to invest expensive resources, like food, on the most valuable cows and cull the rest of the herd.
Of [...]
Typically people think that experience results from failure. That’s because people mostly focus on the negative. And that’s a result of evolution. Cautious people, who take a more negative view, survive at higher rates and have more descendents.
But the way to build more momentum in your life is to create a victory list for [...]
When coaching executives we often have to guide them to sort out issues relating to their leadership role. Sometimes they need to be a Queen or King kind of Leader. Other times they need to be a Prince or Princess type of Manager. In short an executive can can really stifle momentum if they are [...]
When I’m working as a sales coach I will often help clients understand the difference between Problems and Implications. Implications are the answer to the question, “Why is that a problem”. People pay to remedy implications not problems.
Yesterday I was in a workshop on Negotiating. The leader taught us about the difference between Positions and [...]
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If you are on the upswing in your life your network is one of your most valuable assets. Future success will be a function of how robust your network is and what you do to make it productive. Your network will grow exponentially as long as you keep at it. Here’s the idea.
Say you’re [...]
