Confidence is a consequence of doing the right things right or, at least, in an improving fashion. I usually tell my coaching clients that the coaching doesn’t start until we decide what actions they will be taking to achieve their goals. My coaching job is to help them do more of the right actions well [...]
More from Tony Blair’s autobiography; this quote about the difficult negotiations in Northern Ireland which started in 1997. “A great belief of mine is that when you are negotiating with someone, the first thing is to set the atmosphere at ease; signify a little glimmer of human feeling; exchange a few pleasantries; and above all [...]
Experienced lawyers have told me repeatedly that law schools miss two very important subjects: marketing yourself and how to get off to a good start in the first year of law firm employment. Law firms are very concerned with integrating newly minted lawyers into the organization. But do those new lawyers know what they need [...]
An inflection point is a time to take a new hard look at goals to see if a new strategy is warranted. So for example, if for people in career transition the most usual option is to simply find another job that replaces the one that was lost. But taking a new look at goals [...]
A client said to me “I’m finally making myself deal with it in an appropriate manner”. As a coach my job is help my clients reach ‘aha’ thoughts and then continue to pressure them to follow through on the ‘aha’. So when a client says they are finally dealing with it I know that the [...]
In our Getting Stress Hardy workshops we make the point that too little or too much stress is not good for you but some is necessary. Usually challenge is the best form of stress to encounter. Challenges are typically something people struggle to overcome. I think struggling is the best form of learning. I see [...]
I learned about this terrific idea recently. As part of hiring people and then through the performance review process create a list of ways that they like to be motivated. The biggest part of this is asking them from time about what motivates them. Then when the time comes you’ll know what should work. This [...]
